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Don’t Take Yourself So Seriously

September 29, 2008

Carefree in Sabang

When I hunted down the above image for this post, I searched for the term “carefree”. Think back, when was the last time you felt completely carefree with no worries, burdens, or responsibilities? Maybe it was quite a long time ago. Maybe it was never. Everyone would like to experience the feeling of being carefree and having no stress, but few people actually do. So don’t take yourself so seriously.

This advice not only applies to your actual and personal life, but to your blog as well. All you see and hear and read all the time is how you should treat your blog like a professional business and nothing else, or if you want to succeed you have to do this, this, and this but if you do this or that then you will fail. Try turning the statistics around for once and do the opposite of what people tell you. Most of the success stories you’ll ever hear don’t come from a specific formula, but instead they come from experimentation and trying something new. You can’t always replicate another person’s success, which is what most bloggers or internet marketers try to do. You have to define your own path.

You might think I’m crazy with the advice I’ve been giving because just the other day I told you to DECREASE your posting frequency, which is usually the opposite of what you’re used to hearing. And today, I’m telling you not to take yourself so seriously, when the rest of the blogosphere insists that your website is a serious business and if you ever consider it anything but one, you’ll never get anywhere. This isn’t true!

When you stop taking yourself so seriously, a lot of the truth comes out because the excess and what isn’t needed is cut. That’s the time when you focus more on what truly matters. If you’re worrying all the time about writing the perfect content and publishing it only on set, planned dates, you’re creating more stress for yourself. If you’re trying to be an overachiever and setting bigger and better goals than your competitors, you’re being unrealistic and creating more stress for yourself. If you’re constantly thinking about your blog, how you’re going to promote it, or what you’re going to do next, you’re unnecessarily creating more stress for yourself.

This turns into a very bad habit. The more you worry, the more you’re going to want to put it all off. As you continue to take yourself too seriously and invent more problems for yourself, they’re going to pile up and you’re not going to know where to start anymore. And then even more tasks will arise for you to do because you never completed the original ones, and this will continue, turning into a very horrible cycle. You’ll have too much work to tackle and it will be overwhelming, so you’ll get to the point where you just want to give up. It won’t feel worth it anymore. Trust me, I know, I’ve been there.

I’m writing from experience here. I made goals for myself that were too much for me to handle, and I felt that if I didn’t do things perfectly that I shouldn’t be doing them at all. But the truth is that there is no such thing as “perfect”, only what other people DEFINE as perfect. You should put your effort into writing quality content, but just because it’s not perfect based on someone else’s standards doesn’t mean it’s never good enough, period. You shouldn’t follow the “laws” of blogging that have been set out by others. It’s fine to go by guidelines, but set your own rules. Like I said earlier, you have to carve your own path. What works for you? Not what works for everyone else, what works for YOU? The only way to discover the answers to these questions are by experimenting and by trial and error. You’ll never be right all the time and you’ll definitely have your fair share of mistakes, but once you find the answers you’ve hit gold.

Don’t be afraid to step out of the box or to try something new. If something that works for everyone else doesn’t work for you, don’t keep doing it just because everyone else does – ditch it. Try writing with a new style or voice. Step out there and try something no or very few bloggers have before. If that doesn’t get you noticed and catch people’s eye, nothing will.

Don’t take yourself so seriously. If you’ve been restricting yourself to a certain formula or a certain way of life, drop it and let loose. Cut yourself some slack and find motivation in something else. When you sit down to write just let the words flow out and don’t stop, even if you think they don’t “sound right”. That doesn’t mean sloppy writing – go back and correct the spelling and grammar errors – but don’t go back and change your words to cover up their true meaning.

I’m definitely not saying to be messy or let the quality of your blog drop, but be down to earth with yourself AND with your readers instead of being uptight – they’ll be able to relate to you better and feel more connected, which results in lots of loyalty and friendships.

Basically, learn to be carefree! Set your own standards and definitions instead of following those of someone else, or just sticking to the norm. Work on your own accord and do it for YOU. Cut out what doesn’t matter and focus on what does, because not only will you be happier and more motivated then, but people will also be more attracted to your website and what you have to say. By not taking yourself so seriously, you can actually become more successful than you ever have been before. Try it. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Creative Commons License photo credit: JOVIKA

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27 Responses to “Don’t Take Yourself So Seriously”

  1. Outsource Web Design on September 30th, 2008 6:03 am

    Hey, where do you hunt images from? Help would be greatly appreciated.

  2. Tay on September 30th, 2008 11:04 pm

    I use images from Flickr that are under the Creative Commons license, and credit the photographer with a link either under the image or in the bottom of the post (as you can see above, there is a photo credit link to JOVIKA from Flickr). If you use WordPress as your blogging platform, the Photodropper plugin is a real lifesaver.

  3. Paula from Affiliate Blog Online on October 2nd, 2008 6:13 am

    What a great post. I really enjoyed reading it. I have come to realise that the key to success in anything is to enjoy it and that’s what I am working on right now. Now I am going to read your post on reducing your posting frequency because that is something else that I have also just implemented with my own blog.

  4. Melvin on October 3rd, 2008 4:29 am

    Setting your own standard, thats the key point here. You’re right bcoz most people follow what other people do only to get disappointed when it doesn’t work out for them

    Melvins last blog post..Why I Have The Potential To Be A Superstar

  5. Larry W on October 8th, 2008 10:06 am

    Visiting your blog for the first time really great stuff Thanks

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  6. Jenn on October 8th, 2008 1:09 pm

    Wow! I truly enjoyed reading this article. I love the image you put together with it as well!

    I definitely let stress get under my skin too easily — and that’s something I’m trying my hardest to work on.

  7. MLDina on October 9th, 2008 12:48 pm

    I think we all can relate to that! You really have to enjoy what you do, and not just set goals based on what the standard is, or what people tell you to do. It’s great to get advice from outside sources, but at the end of the day, you have to be happy!

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  8. pearl on October 10th, 2008 4:07 pm

    Hi Tay

    this is good advice as I’ve been so worried about not being able to post and then with all that worry I cannot write at all so its a vicious cycle.. I’m really trying this one consciously these days in other aspects of my life too but it’s easy to forget! Im definitely bookmarking it as one of the tabs in my browser today…

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  9. Earn EZ Money Online on October 13th, 2008 8:58 pm

    What a refreshing post!!! I am definitely getting too serious about blogging. I feel I have to write a brilliant post everyday otherwise I’m failing. I now feel relieved that this is not true. Life is simply too short to be serious most of the time. One needs to enjoy life.

    Thanks for the moving words.

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  10. Readers Pick on November 2nd, 2008 10:29 am

    Thank God, somebody made a post about it! Thank you! I sometimes think that I take myself too seriously when writing entries for my personal blogs just to make it sound interesting. I’m not after the traffic for my personal blog but I just want it to sound..profound. But thanks to your article, it would sound more sincere if I just be true to myself.

  11. tkada.com on December 8th, 2008 8:44 am

    Good image relating the content, and you had mentioned the serious ness that we are bounded into often that really makes restless in action.., its really true.
    I had experienced it much time that I was not comfortable when I do things seriously, but at the same time attain the target when I enjoy the thing I do, what a magic is? I don’t know or I doesn’t believe I myself that job was done by me..,
    thanks for posting out that pierces into the insight.

  12. UNDERFLOOR HEATING on February 10th, 2009 6:23 am

    The idea, post image and advices are very fine us to promoting the blog really we should not think so seriously result metal instability for personal life and family life.

  13. Bloggers Payback on October 14th, 2009 9:17 pm

    I like your approach… I think I’m guilty of taking myself too seriously… I’m going to try your way… should be more fun… :)Thanks: Rob

  14. Manhattan on October 22nd, 2009 3:11 pm

    The worst thing is when people start treating their blog like a job. When it’s tedious to write, it’s also tediou to read. You shouldn’t be forcing posts and apologizing when you don’t have one. It should flow naturally.

  15. Rian on October 30th, 2009 12:36 pm

    it’s too hard not to be serious in these hard times. Talk about recession, terrorism and the works. Well I do post once a day since I’m a new blogger. :)

  16. Nicusor on November 16th, 2009 11:53 am

    It’s easier to said than done… unfortunately!

  17. Calgary Landscaping Design on November 27th, 2009 11:50 am

    I think sometimes you should have some burdens that helps you to move forward in life :)

  18. bali mouse on January 5th, 2010 6:55 am

    i agree…..never so serious…
    that only make us lot think same time get us to stop to innovation

  19. mba project on January 6th, 2010 11:10 am

    I agree with what has been mentioned, we should stress ourselves only to a level upto which it is productive… never over stress yourself.

  20. bulgaristanda eğitim on March 1st, 2010 6:19 pm

    It’s easier to said than done… unfortunately!

  21. pulacroatia on March 12th, 2010 10:06 am

    I had to smile when I saw the headline of this article , I totally agree with it :-)

  22. The Money Paradise on March 24th, 2010 3:54 am

    It was nice reading. really it is helpful. i am trying to implement all the said above

  23. Frank Zweegers on April 5th, 2010 7:42 am

    Interesting post, and I have to agree with the contents. Too bad it is quite hard to do so….

  24. Trailer Hitch on April 21st, 2010 11:26 am

    This is a great way to look at not only blogging but your personal life. Life is too short to not have fun and take yourself too seriously. Thanks for this tip it is a good one. I will be checking back frequently to see more of your thoughts.

  25. Tay on April 25th, 2010 4:08 pm

    Thanks, Trailer Hitch. And you’re right — it can be applied to all aspects of life.

  26. amer on April 29th, 2010 4:09 am

    Dear  it was a very time ago ,when  i was carefree that was my childhood but now it is very much burdened life

  27. rob on June 11th, 2010 3:14 am

    the last time i felt this way i was in school, i had no bills no work no responsibilities they were the days lol

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